"Oftentimes what we are doing is we are deciding something to either avoid a consequence, which are emotional feelings, or hope for a consequence, which again is a feeling.
[…] If you had a choice between getting the billion dollars, but you are absolutely freaking miserable […] Or vice versa, if you lost everything but you were happier than you have ever been […] The consequences that we are avoiding are emotional consequences.
The question becomes how you invite and learn each of these emotions not to be avoided or not to be run towards and the entire spectrum is lovely."
Here is what I do with this:
- Write out areas of my life where fear is running the show
- For each area, write out all the scary, emotional consequences I am avoiding
- While writing: notice, welcome, and offer love to those emotions in real time
The idea here is feeling ok with the scariest emotional consequences, so you have the largest set of choices available.
It also just feels good.