Repeat the statement “I forgive myself for not understanding” in your mind.

Repeat it over and over.

After some time, you will notice memories come up. Painful ones. Once they come up, you need to address them.

Let’s say you remember a time when you made a mistake. Mentally repeat: “I forgive myself for making that mistake.”

You may notice your mind complain at first. Mentally repeat: “I forgive my mind for not wanting to forgive.”

Then, go back and repeat the statement: “I forgive myself for making that mistake”.

Make sure to relax as it happens. Relax your head. Relax your face and jaw. Relax anything that is tensing because of the memory.

Experiment with it. Find words that work for you. Words that evoke a warm heart. Relax in a way that works for you. Play with it.


Now, let’s say that a new memory comes up after you’ve resolved the first that reminds you of someone who did something to you.

You repeat: “I forgive you for not understanding.” or “I forgive you for not understanding how you caused me pain.”

Genuinely. Sincerely. Wholeheartedly (to the extent you can) forgive.

You can do this anywhere. Anytime. And every time you do it, those memories will plague you less and less. Leaving you a pure and clean mind.

After doing this for a while, transition into mentally asking for forgiveness for others you've hurt. (Please forgive me for not understanding.)

I image myself going down the stairs, into the subconscious. 10 steps in all.

I open the door at the bottom. The first door in the hallway, on the left contains the inner child. I walk in. 

The “greeter” appears. He sits on a bed, wearing a yellow sweater with Goofy on it, rocking a bowl haircut. I connect with him and he tells me how happy he feels that I have worked with so many parts within myself. He shows me, in the next few rooms, all my parts. 

I leave this room. I go to the next room. The expanse. 

This room, when you walk in, sucks you into expansion. I feel my access to the ventral vagal nervous system. When I join with it, the greenness of it makes me feel safe.

I remember what Deb Dana shares about Ventral Vagal landscapes. Each landscape appears uniquely to the individual and comes with a sliding scale of depth. For me, just entering into Ventral Vagal brings gentleness and tingles. While going all the way into Ventral weighs like thousands of pounds of wet, nutrient-dense soil, feeding your soul.

I leave this room.

The next room. The Wizard.

I peer through — looking around his laboratory — I notice him hunched over a chemistry setup and tinkering with different vials. I ask: “Get me up to speed?”. He looks up and gives me a smirk. With a vial in one hand, he trots over: “I shall heal that nasty viral thing in us. (I have Covid atm) You see this green thing? Medicine. To take it, imagine feeling into unwell parts. Imagine a green awareness flowing through.”

I take the medicine. Following his instructions. I noticeably feel a bit better.

I go to the next room. The spirit animal. 

I see a dark, desolate forest. I look up and see a huge Owl. His eyes sparkle, made up of glimmers of gold and silver. I feel his calm. I feel a knowing emanating from him. He knows. He knows me. He sees me. I sit next to him. We both stare out into the forest. I feel that he wants to share something with me. A message. In a deep voice, I hear him in my mind as he grumbles “Open your eyes and see clearly. You miss the big picture.”

I leave this room.

I head back into the hallway. 

The next room contains Gifts from the Higher Self.

I walk in. Immediately I smell a calming, soothing aroma. I walk through an ancient Egyptian palace. I see silk robes flowing down from the massive pillars. I look ahead and see an alter. Next to the alter, a curved sword and a bowl. I know it wants an offering. I slit my hand and let blood flow into the bowl. The bowl glows and disappears. On the mantel, I see a small, brown notebook. Inside the book I read about all the adventures awaiting in this life. I feel that whatever has given me this wants me to know that my life grows richer everyday.

I put the book in my pocket and head out.

I walk back down the hallway.

I go outside and ascend the stairs, back into this moment.

Clarity. Healing. Hope.

This is the last nervous system regulation instruction you may ever need.

This process is predictable. Reliable. Repeatable.

You can experience a profound meditative state if you follow it for long enough.

Here's what to do:

1) Sit on the edge of your chair, feet firmly planted on the ground, spine straight 

2) Set a timer for 10 minutes and tell yourself that you will not move for the remainder of this session

3) Close your eyes

4) Inhale to the count of 6

5) Without pausing at the top of your inhalation, immediately start exhaling to a count of 6

6) Without pausing at the bottom of your exhalation, immediately start inhaling to a count of 6

7) Repeat this cycle

8) While inhaling and exhaling, relax the 6 bridges.

What are the 6 bridges?*

1. Your head and face

2. Your neck and tongue

3. Your hands

4. Your diaphragm and intercostals

5. Your pelvic floor

6. Your feet

Imagine that your body is a cup that can hold a golden fluid. 

As you inhale, that fluid starts from your feet and rises all the way up your body until it reaches the top of your head at the top of your inhale. 

As you exhale, imagine that fluid falling back down from your head back down to your feet.

When the fluid reaches one of the bridges, like your head and face, consciously relax that area.

This leads to better nervous system balance, incresed HRV, less stress, and a very deep meditative state.

* I first learned about the 6 bridges through Stephen Elliot, he is the originator of this phrase.

Finding Spiritual Significance

principle 1: user experiences are probabilistic, not deterministic

you can’t control how someone experiences your product. experiences are personal and subjective. all you can do is increase the likelihood that they’ll have a positive one. AI’s role is to optimize the odds—it doesn’t guarantee anything, but it can shape the environment to make a positive outcome more likely. it’s about shaping probabilities, not dictating experiences.

principle 2: AI is the gardener, not the architect

AI isn’t building rigid systems or telling users what to do. it’s creating a flexible, adaptive environment. think of it like a gardener, not an architect. the AI helps set the right conditions for users to succeed, but it doesn’t control how that success happens. over time, it adapts as users interact with it, growing and evolving alongside them.

principle 3: create a dynamic, learning environment

a great product is a living system. the product experience should constantly learn from its users, adjusting and improving based on how people interact with it. right now, we rely on human feedback to do this, but the future is a product that can learn directly from its users. it evolves, refines, and adapts in real-time, cutting out the middleman and making the feedback loop faster and more direct.

principle 4: co-regulate with the user’s nervous system

one of the most powerful things a product can do is sync with the user’s nervous system. your product should be able to regulate stress and calmness in the user. by paying attention to how users behave (like when they’re frustrated or taking too long on a task), the AI can adjust the experience to keep them either engaged or calm, depending on what’s needed. this creates a more personalized, responsive experience.

principle 5: start broad, refine subtle

when building a product, you start with big adjustments. you need to see what works and what doesn’t. but over time, as the AI learns more about the user, it should begin making smaller, more subtle refinements. these marginal gains are where the real magic happens, turning a decent product into a great one. it’s the little things that often make the biggest difference.

principle 6: reveal hidden constraints

users don’t always know what’s holding them back. sometimes they’re limited by things they can’t see—whether it’s mental, emotional, or something else. the AI’s job is to identify those hidden constraints and surface them in a way that helps the user move forward. by watching for patterns in behavior, AI can help users overcome obstacles they might not even realize they have.

principle 7: the product is always evolving

there’s no such thing as a finished product. users change, expectations shift, and the world moves forward. your product has to keep evolving. AI should be built to continuously learn and adapt, so the product stays relevant and valuable even as the world around it changes. it’s a constant cycle of evaluation and improvement.

principle 8: fail gracefully, iterate rapidly

not everything will work right away, and that’s fine. the key is to iterate quickly and learn from failures. even when things go wrong, your product should still provide value and recover gracefully. AI helps by speeding up the iteration process, making adjustments smarter each time. it’s about learning fast, failing fast, and improving faster.